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Kids and Violence

I think all of us that are parents, can agree that this day and age is a little scary. School violence is on the rise, and is hard to process. How do you explain it to your kids? I came across a wonderful article that Focus on the Family put out. It gives great points and ideas on how to talk to your kids about School Violence.

Not long ago, as my kids and I were arriving at my son’s basketball practice, an airplane flew over us. This one was quite a bit louder and faster than your average over-the-city airliner, so my daughter looked up to see what all the noise was about.

“Are they coming to bomb us, Daddy?” she asked, moving closer to me.

I told her no, but her question surprised me, so I asked her why she thought that. My daughter told me she’d heard something at school — a news story about an airport and bombs and people getting killed. We talked a bit about the story she’d heard, about how awful things do sometimes happen, then I reassured her that the aircraft roaring above wasn’t going to harm us.

In today’s media-saturated culture, families are surrounded by accounts of shootings, bombings and other mass killings. Our kids won’t fully understand these stories, but they’ll be frightened just the same. As parents, we need to help them have the necessary facts to process these tragic events and a larger understanding to ease their fears. Here are a few principles to help you talk with your children about man-made tragedies:

Nurture their trust in you

As parents, we want our children to verbalize their fears and concerns to us. My son is 13, and I value those moments when he comes to me, letting me know he’s worried about or afraid of something. I know the day of his independence is coming — when we’ll not have as many of these conversations. It is through these exchanges that I prepare him for that future. I encourage his trust by actively listening and not downplaying his fears. I avoid criticizing flawed logic, even as I work to correct it. Kids may not be able to articulate what they are scared of, but those emotions are real.

Try to see things from your child’s perspective. Whatever media they are exposed to, ask yourself how they might interpret what they’ve seen and heard. When my daughter was 5 or 6, she was accidentally exposed to a few moments of a disturbing news report. That night at bedtime, she was reminded of those pictures.

“Can I have a light on tonight?” she asked, looking around the room nervously. I did turn on a nightlight, but then I knelt down and looked around the room from her angle. We explored these familiar surroundings together, helping her see again that her room and closet were safe. Some stuffed animals were casting odd shadows, so we relocated them. I knew there was nothing in the room that could harm her, but it was important for my daughter to have a small sense of control over that environment and know that she could voice her fears to her father.

Tell the truth — in appropriate doses

As parents, most of us would probably prefer to protect our kids from ever having to wrestle with the idea of mass violence. This type of protection is more possible for younger kids up to age 4. Preschoolers aren’t able to process these sorts of events, and we can usually limit the flow of media that these young ones are exposed to. But as kids start into the school years — as they’re able to understand the big words in a top-of-the-hour news report or headline on the computer screen — they’re going to be asking questions. Answer their questions with the truth — sad as it may be — providing your children with the basic facts about what happened.

Most kids ages 4 to 7 won’t be looking for a lengthy conversation. You shouldn’t go into too many details. A simple, straightforward explanation is usually best: “A man who was very angry hurt a lot of people at an airport. Some of those people died.”

A child’s world is generally pretty small, and kids may think that the horrible news events they’ve heard about are just across town or right next door. They might ask if it’s safe to go to a mall, if ISIS is in your city, or as in the case with my daughter, if the aircraft buzzing overhead is going to attack. Depending on the tragedy, kids may also believe a number of inaccuracies that are fueled by rumors at school or from conversations with friends. So correct whatever exaggerations or inaccuracies they may have heard. One of the first things I talk about with my kids is simple geographic distance. We look at a map or globe and talk about where the tragedy occurred and how far away it is from our home.

Tell the truth, but don’t dwell on information and imagery that will deepen fears. Your goal as a parent is to help your kids feel safe and grounded and learn how to handle stress. Children are comforted by the stability and safety their parents provide, knowing that even if bad things happen, the family will get through it together. This creates what scientists call “tolerable stress.”

With kids 8 to 12, you can follow these same guidelines and start to broaden the conversation with a few more details and insights. And when children enter the teen years, you can look deeper into these issues, wrestling with the meaning and faith implications behind the events.

Adjust to their personality

When considering how much to share with your children, maturity level and temperament are more important than age. As a parent, you know your children and what they can handle. Weigh this knowledge against the need to give them enough information to understand and process these stories. You may find that you’re having weightier conversations with a 9-year-old than you are with an 11-year-old.

Some children have a personality that seems more curious and news-ready. These uninhibited children are just not all that fearful. When they go hiking, these kids want to tiptoe right up to the edge of every drop-off. And when hearing about tragedies in the world, they’ll not shy away from the gritty details of a story.

They often seek to learn and understand everything they can about a news event. With these kids, we should try to guide our conversation to help them understand that real people were hurt, that real people are still hurting. You’ll also want them to consider the spiritual side of these tragedies, in order to move them toward empathy. Invite them to pray with you for the victims and even the perpetrators.

Other children, the inhibited types, tend to be more afraid. With these kids, you’ll want to work on the trait of courage. Let them know it’s not bad to be fearful. These emotions are normal. The brain is trying to think through what happened. But those emotions shouldn’t keep us from living our lives. God intends for us to continue doing the things we normally do.

Be aware of the emotions you’re modeling for your kids. Many children, particularly younger ones, pick up on our actions and outward displays of emotion. This has a strong influence on how they will think and feel about something. Are you making comments — perhaps about not leaving the house or trying to avoid crowds — that will mold their thinking and their fears? Adults are allowed to be scared, of course, but it’s often better to talk about these things with a spouse behind closed doors. In our home, my wife and I do discuss tragic news events with our children, but we often save the raw emotions and details about these stories for when the kids are in bed for the night.

Show them the bigger story

Remind your children of how seldom these tragedies occur. I recently asked my daughter to consider what a television news report would look like if it covered all the times an airplane landed without incident and all the times people safely attended movies and concerts and carnivals.

“It would go on for a really long time,” she responded.

“And no one would think it was very exciting,” I said. “So instead, they focus on rare, awful events. Those tragedies get highlighted so much that it’s easy to think that terrible news is the only kind of news there is.”

It’s important that we help our kids not dwell on the negative. God’s goodness and truth are alive during even the darkest times.

As you process these events together, remind your children that the true story is bigger than the bloodshed. Point your kids toward all the good that is happening. Look for the men and women who are risking their lives to save others. Look for those who drive ambulances or direct traffic toward safety. Those who bring bandages and blankets, those who donate blood, those who hand out sandwiches and water bottles. Look for those who are involved in the lives of victims, giving them comfort and helping them heal.

And of course, as Christians, we know that the story is even bigger. Jesus is the ultimate helper. His response to the sin and evil of our world is to come down to our level and take the punishment for all of it. Sin creates chaos and pain. God rescues our fallen race from that misery. Isaiah 26:3-4 says God will give peace to a person who wholeheartedly trusts in Him and keeps his mind focused on Him. He does not leave us as orphans. He comes to strengthen, comfort and help.

Controlling or Training

We just celebrated a New Year, and we are about to head into Spring Cleaning! With this combination we often find ourselves cleaning out closets, playrooms, and any other space in the house that gets cluttered. I don’t know if your children are like mine, but they usually want to help, and I am often time very resistant to wanting them to help. I say its because it takes me longer, but is it really because I have a hard time giving up control? This article from Focus on the Family, really hit me in the heart when I read it:

“Look Mom, I cleaned out my closet! See how great it looks?” As I stood there surveying what clearly resembled an unorganized mess, I contemplated how to react. I wanted to empty the entire closet, start the project over and do it the right way — my way. Instead, I smiled and said, “Great job! You worked hard. Now let’s get that pile to the trash.”

Need for control

Have you ever come behind your children and redone their work? You know, like reloading the dishwasher, improving the science project or reorganizing a closet? I have. And I’m ashamed to admit it. When my kids did not meet my expectations, I became frustrated and demanded compliance.

Some moms think the need to control is necessary, while others refer to it as efficiency. But I’m learning firsthand that it’s really a sign that Mom simply got herself stuck in the “Me Mom” trap. You may be familiar with this predicament. Signs include an overarching need to control what your children do and exactly how they do it.

Our need to control often reflects our attitude. Do we measure peace and contentment by our ability to achieve neatness and order? And in the process of achieving order, do we find ourselves creating chaos, even hurting the children we’ve been given to nurture?

Nurturing desire for success

Our role as our children’s first teacher is to motivate them to improve and instill in them a desire to do well. Our lesson as women is to desire God’s will, more than our own, for ourselves and our families (1 John 2:17).

Proverbs 22:6 instructs us to “train a child in the way he should go,” not “control a child in the way we want him to go.” Once we make it less about our need to have things done our way and more about teaching and encouraging, our kids can learn a good work ethic at the same time we (as moms) find peace and contentment. Isn’t it just like God to shape and grow us as we shape and grow our kids?

Nurturing children toward success is one of the greatest joys of motherhood. We will not find joy by seeking control, but we will flourish when we replace the Me Mom attitude with a heart of grace.

 So how will you respond next time your faced with a situation like this? Pray and ask God to help you to give up control, and to give grace.

Christmas Season Activities with your Kids

Christmas time is a great time of year to start some  meaningful traditions.  I’m always looking for some fun things to do with my kids during Christmas and so I was really excited when I came across this article by Focus on the Family. It is a list of activities and ideas for the kids this Christmas season.  Here is the list:


After my grandmother died, my mother hung up a stocking at Christmastime to help our family honor her life. We put in love notes and cherished memories of her. After my father died, I did this same activity with my kids to help them with their grief. The very young had a concrete activity to do, and my older children were able to work through their feelings of loss.

—Sara Hague

Secret Santa Surprise

When my son, Tommy, was 10, I asked at bedtime, “Who in your class do you like the least?”

He looked surprised, but quickly answered, “That’s easy” and told me a name.

“Then that is who we will pray for tonight,” I said with a smile. He did not reciprocate my expression.

For the next two months, either at bedtime or while driving Tommy to school, I would pray for this least-liked classmate.

December came, and it was time for our family to choose a family that we could be a “secret Santa” to, so we could anonymously leave a little gift and note on someone’s doorstep each of the 12 nights leading up to Christmas.

When I asked for suggestions, whose name should come out of Tommy’s mouth but Mr. Least Liked! God had changed Tommy’s heart and attitude toward this classmate.

—Kim Biasotto

Finding Jesus

“Find the baby Jesus” is a game that has been used in my husband’s family for more than 30 years. My mother-in-law set up a Nativity scene in the kitchen on Dec. 1. Then she hid baby Jesus far from the kitchen. Her sons had to find the figurine. As Christmas approached, the figurine would be hidden in progressively closer locations — moving from the upstairs bedrooms to the kitchen itself.

The hiding spots became more challenging as her boys grew older. This simple game kept Jesus in the forefront of her sons’ minds, and it is a tradition that my family continues today.

— Marybeth Mitcham

Christmas Bingo

This past December, my kids and I made Christmas bingo cards. They chose fun activities, as well as some acts of service, to include on their cards. By the time the kids went back to school in January, they’d each earned a “bingo” and had a lot of fun. (Download a free bingo card and suggestions to try this yourself.)

— Diane Stark

Ideas for Serving Others This Christmas Season

We’re called to humbly serve other people — not only the poor and sick, but our families, friends and neighbors, too. Sometimes, we’re so busy, though, that it’s hard to come up with ways to help others. Try these lists of quick ways you and your kids can serve people you know: 1) Serving siblings and close friends  2) Serving your family 3) Serving neighbors and your community. If you can’t decide which ideas will work best, print them and cut them into slips. Put the slips of paper into a jar or hat and pull out an idea.

— T.F. Edwords

A Simple Celebration

There is so much to see and do at Christmas. To keep from being too busy, my husband and I developed a list of activities — from making cookies to ice skating — then each family member chose only one activity for the holidays. This list helped us deepen our relationship with our tweens because we weren’t rushing around to so many activities. Instead, we were able to enjoy each other, and the season was a lot less hectic.

— Kim Adam

Keeping Your Thoughts on Christ

A walk through the Moyers’ home in December reveals a variety of Nativity sets, both large and small, but not one contains a baby Jesus figure. Four-year-old Lydia Grace Moyer can tell you why. “Jesus is born on Christmas.”

Not until the morning of Dec. 25 do the baby figures appear in their beds of straw. Lydia jumps out of bed and races downstairs to rush from one manger to another. As the preschooler hugs baby Jesus, welcoming Him to their home, her mother smiles. What better way to begin the day, focused on God’s gift to the world?

We say we celebrate our Savior’s birth on Christmas, but in our dash to make it the perfect holiday, we often lose sight of Jesus. The following simple, sometimes unusual suggestions will help you and your family focus your thoughts on Christ during this special time of year.

Create a Jesse tree. It’s hard for children to wait for Christmas and harder still not to think about the presents they will get. Use an Advent Jesse tree and companion book to help them prepare their hearts for the true meaning of the season. These small evergreen trees are decorated with ornaments that symbolize stories from the Bible. Look online for a detailed description of ornaments that are often used.

Each day in December leading up to Christmas, your children can make or unwrap an ornament to hang on the tree while you read one of the 25 devotionals that trace God’s redemptive plan from the beginning, long before Jesus was born. The readings rel=”noopener noreferrer” culminate on Christmas with rel=”noopener noreferrer” the birth of the new “shoot rel=”noopener noreferrer” . . . from the stump of rel=”noopener noreferrer” Jesse,” as foretold in Isaiah 11:1.

Watch a Christmas play. Whether it’s the Nativity story or an allegory such as “The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe,” a stage performance brings a story to life like no movie can. Children thrill to a real baby’s cry or to Aslan’s roar. rel=”noopener noreferrer” If no live play is available, rel=”noopener noreferrer” perform one. The rel=”noopener noreferrer” children in my family always rel=”noopener noreferrer” put on a rendition of Christ’s birth as told in Luke 2.

Imitate the wise men. Buy only three presents for each child in remembrance of the Magi’s gifts to the Christ child. These presents don’t need to be expensive in order to be meaningful. To keep Christmas Day focused on Jesus, some families postpone their gift exchange to Epiphany on Jan. 6. By tradition, Epiphany recalls the arrival of the wise men to worship Jesus and so reveal Him to the world as Lord and King.

Share Christmas joy. Spread Jesus’ love by helping others and by lifting the spirits of those who might not see a reason to celebrate. Together as a family, visit a nursing home, serve meals at a mission or church, or pack and deliver Christmas baskets for food pantries. Make sure your children know you do this not to earn God’s favor but to love Him by loving others.

These are just a few ideas to help you start your own family traditions. Use them to create times when you shut out the hustle and bustle of the holiday and focus on the “holy day” when love came down from heaven as a tiny baby to dwell among us.

— Tracy Crump

Age-Appropriate Christmas Activities

Try these fun-filled, age-appropriate activities that will direct children, and adults, back to the true meaning of the holiday, to celebrate Emmanuel, God who is with us.

Ages 0-3

  • In order to avoid making Christmas a “don’t touch holiday” for little ones, give them fun things they can touch.
  • Move glass ornaments and lights up to higher branches on the Christmas tree, and help your child make fun decorations for the bottom.
  • String pieces of colored tissue paper cut into squares onto shoestrings to hang as garland.
  • Get out the glitter and make paper ornaments.
  • Mold a nativity scene from clay dough and display in a prominent place. Tell the story of Christmas while you do this.
  • Decorate cookies and build gingerbread houses together as a family.

Ages 4-7

  • Help your little ones focus on others this season by making use of those Christmas cards received in the mail. Place the cards in a basket on the dinner table; taking turns each night drawing one out. Then pray together for that person or family.
  • Also, start a family tradition by picking out a new holiday picture book to read each Christmas Eve. Some of my favorites are:
  • 10 Minutes to Showtime, by Tricia Goyer
  • The Crippled Lamb, by Max Lucado
  • The Stable Where Jesus was Born, by Rhonda Gowler Greene
  • The Christmas Rose, by William H. Hooks

Ages 8-12

  • Ring in an international Christmas by assigning a country to each child. Besides reporting about how that country celebrates the holiday, he or she can prepare a seasonal dish to share, or demonstrate a song or folkdance. Then pray for the people of that culture so that they too might understand the meaning of God’s love.

Ages 13-18

  • This age group is old enough to bundle up and go caroling. During each visit allow for a few seasonal songs and readings from the scriptures proclaiming the birth of the newborn king. Besides visiting the neighbors, teens may want to stop by the local convalescent home, hospital, or homeless shelter.

All Ages

  • Many families choose to celebrate Advent – the days leading up to Christmas Day. There are fun Advent calendars on the market, some with doors that open and play songs, others that hide chocolate candies rel=”noopener noreferrer” or other treats. Focus rel=”noopener noreferrer” on the Family offers various rel=”noopener noreferrer” Advent calendars, some rel=”noopener noreferrer” free and some to purchase. To learn more about the free downloads, go to

— Lynne Thompson


My challenge to you is to pick a few things off this long list of activities to do with your kids this season.


This month we are focusing on being thankful, and teaching our kids to be thankful. What a sweet song this is about thankfulness. How often do you ask your children what they are thankful for?

Psalm 92: 1-2 says, “It is good to praise the Lord
    and make music to your name, O Most High,
proclaiming your love in the morning
    and your faithfulness at night,”

We should “Rise and Shine” every morning singing songs of Thankfulness to Jesus, and we should talk about His faithfulness every night. I want to challenge you to wake your kids every morning, for the rest of this month, with songs of Thanksgiving for our God. It also says to proclaim His faithfulness at night. I want you to end your night with prayers of thankfulness, for His faithfulness, throughout the day. Start writing all the ways He was faithful for to you during the day. What a beautiful exercise this will be to keep your mind focused on Gods goodness. Start doing this just for the week, and then do it the next week, and then the next. Maybe it will become a daily practice you do everyday. If we instill this practice in our kids, they will be kids with a heart that overflows with gratitude for all the great things God has done.

Teaching Children to be Thankful

We all want our children to have thankful and grateful hearts, but it is so hard to battle against selfishness. Focus on the Family gathered some ideas from different people, in order to give different ideas on how to teach kids to be thankful. Let’s be intentional in our parenting, and let’s work extra hard this season to teach our children how to be thankful.

Thank You Box

My kids used to complain about writing thank-you notes for birthday and Christmas gifts. To make this a fun task instead of a chore, my husband and I filled a shoebox with many kinds of blank notes and inexpensive thank-you cards, along with crafting odds and ends. To motivate them to use these materials, they had to send their thank-you notes after opening their gifts but before playing with them. This helped them get right to the task.

—Sarah Nuss

Nurturing Thankful Hearts

Over the years, I’ve pushed and pestered my kids to appreciate all that God has given them, but my tactics were mostly unfruitful and frustrating. That all changed when I encouraged my kids to practice gratitude with a Blessings Book.

I folded five pieces of copy paper in half and put a folded piece of construction paper around them for a cover. Once I’d stapled the spine, my children were able to title and decorate it.

At least once a week, they made an entry, describing a blessing, an answered prayer, happy news or a fun activity. I was surprised at how quickly the book filled up. This simple activity helped my kids realize how blessed they are and cultivated thankful hearts.

—Kathryn O’Brien

Heart of Gratitude

Before my four daughters were old enough to write thank-you notes, I wanted to find another way for them to express gratitude. So I decorated a hanging wooden heart and wrote “thank you” in the middle. I explained that we would hang the heart on the bedroom door of any child caught doing good, as a reminder of our thankfulness for their decision. I was amazed how quickly the girls grasped the concept. The heart was soon making a daily trip around the house:

“Thank you, Sophia, for playing blocks with me.”

“Thank you, Alexa, for helping me pour milk on my cereal.”

“Thank you, Mom, for not getting mad when I was naughty.”

Each night we return the heart to its downstairs cupboard. One night before prayers, a daughter placed it on the shelf where we keep our Scriptures. “Thank You, God, for everything.”

—Julie Reece-DeMarco

Gratitude Triggers

My kids and I drive past a billboard for a local home builder every day. When we were in the process of buying a new home, that billboard became a regular reminder for us to pray about the process and ask for God’s guidance and help. After we bought the house and moved in, I realized that habit shouldn’t change just because our prayers had been answered. Now that same billboard acts as a “gratitude trigger.” It reminds us how much we have to be thankful for. When we see it, we thank God not only for our new home, but for the many other blessings He’s given us, as well. Ask your kids to help select things you encounter in everyday life that can become gratitude triggers for your family. Anything from a red light, to a certain road sign, to a barking dog or a particular song on the radio can serve as a reminder to give thanks to God.

—Diane Stark

A Lesson in Gratitude

When my family shops for school supplies, we buy an extra backpack and fill it with supplies for a child in need. We pray for the student receiving it, put in a special note and then drop it off at a local charity that is collecting back-to-school donations. My son loves doing this, and it helps him understand how blessed he is.

—Ilene Martin

Teach Thankfulness

Make it a point to express gratitude in the presence of your toddlers. You might say, “Thank You, Jesus, for the beautiful fall colors — the red and yellow and purple leaves.” Or while you’re in the checkout line at the grocery store say, “Thanks, Jesus, that we can buy this yummy food.” In this way, they’re recognizing that Jesus is involved in the details around them. Children will learn from your simple behavior to be thankful to Jesus for His daily care and provision.

—T.F. Edwords

Planting Seeds

I don’t know about you, but I know sometimes it is a challenge to get devotion time in with my kids. I found this to be a really neat tool, and so I thought I would share. It comes from Focus on the Family’s website:

Researchers affirm what Christian families have known intuitively for years: families that eat together, pray together and play together are stronger. But today’s crazy schedules and priorities are making it more difficult to make every day count, even in the simplest ways.

That’s why we’re excited to make it easier for you to invest a bit of time each week on family devotions. We have compiled 52 weekly devotions for the coming year that you can start anytime. Each contains faith-affirming biblical principles that will help you do what no one else in this world will ever do as well as you: help build a lasting, thriving faith in God into your child’s heart.

Click here to get 52 devotions that you can do with your kids!

A Mother’s Day Video

Bunny Rabbits, Eggs, and Easter Lillies!

Bunny Rabbits, Eggs, and Easter Lillie are all symbols that represent Easter! But, why? My daughter is always asking me tough questions like these, and because I want to keep Jesus the center or our Easter, I went out and did a little research. I found this really awesome blog that a Christian mom wrote, and so I want to share it with  you. This mom has done the research, and what she found is perfect!


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Easter Symbols: Easter Eggs

The tradition of Easter eggs is almost certainly associated with the practice of Lent — a period of preparation for Easter that includes 40 days of abstinence (designed to imitate Jesus’ forty day fast in the desert, Matthew 4:1-11).

By the 4th century, Christians had begun the practice of Lent, and in 692, the Council in Trullo (a church council held in Constantinople) gave the following instructions:

“It seems good therefore that the whole Church of God which is in all the world should follow one rule and keep the fast perfectly, and as they abstain from everything which is killed, so also should they from eggs and cheese, which are the fruit and produce of those animals from which we abstain.”

Scholar Anthony McRoy notes, “In pre-refrigeration days, it would be difficult to preserve milk and meat products until Easter, but the same was not true of eggs. Eggs, which unlike other foods do not perish quickly, were therefore a natural way to break the fast on Easter Sunday” (How The Fast of Lent Gave Us Easter Eggs).

Eggs also offered the additional benefit of serving as the perfect symbol for the “hope of new life” — a hope made possible for all believers through the resurrection of Christ.

Naturally, eggs became the focus of games and activities like egg hunts and egg coloring.

Among Orthodox believers, eggs were often colored red to symbolize Christ’s blood that was spilled to give us new life. 

However, in the U.S., it is more common to see a variety of colors (usually pastels) symbolizing the many colors of “new life” that come into bloom in the spring.

And speaking of colors

Pastel Colors

The term Easter probably comes from the Anglo-Saxon name for April, Eosturmonath, which likely meant “the month of opening” –the season when the buds open and a time that Christians can reflect on the tomb that opened!

What magnificent timing the Lord chose for his resurrection, when so much of the earth is literally “singing” of new life and bursting into color. It is lovely that Easter is celebrated with such a variety of colors, particularly pastels.

There is a practice in many liturgical Christian churches to use specific colors as visual symbols of the Lenten journey:

  • Purple, a symbol of repentance, is typically associated with Lent;
  • black with the darkness of Good Friday (and the hours leading up to Easter morning);
  • and white and gold with the 50 days of Easter (Easter morning to Pentecost).

Throughout the Bible, white symbolizes purity, and throughout the history of the church, baptisms traditionally took place on Easter Sunday with candidates wearing white as a symbol of their new life in Christ.

The color gold is indicative of the riches of our inheritance in Christ and His kingdom, our eternal home, where the New Jerusalem is made “of pure gold” (Revelation 21:18).

But what about bunnies?!

Easter Bunnies

Throughout the world, a variety of imaginative tales have developed to explain to children how eggs “appear” on Easter morning. Often the tales involve animals that are personified in one sense or another.

The first recorded evidence of an Easter bunny (or hare) was in a book called De Ovis Paschalibus (About the Easter Egg) by Georg Franck von Frankenau (1643-1704) in which he recorded that the tradition existed in Alsace (a region in modern day France that was previously populated by Germans).

The tradition was probably brought to America by German immigrants, along with the practice of setting out hats and bonnets in the hope that the Easter bunny would leave eggs for Easter morning (a precursor to the modern Easter basket).

Furthermore, there is a diverse assortment of animals that are said to deliver eggs in other countries. For example, in Switzerland, a cuckoo delivers eggs, and in Westphalia (a region in Germany), it is a fox. The personification of animals has been a favorite subject for children over many centuries.

There is no clear evidence, by the way, to suggest that the symbol of the bunny was borrowed from paganism (as is often claimed).

In fact, some Christians find that the Easter bunny is a particularly good choice as a “mascot” of Easter.

Since bunnies emerge from their underground burrows, they can serve as a symbolic representation of the resurrection of Christ as he emerges from his tomb on Easter Sunday.

I love this!!

Flowers are also a big part of Easter.

Why do we display certain flowers, such as Easter Lilies, during the Easter celebration?

Easter Symbols: Easter Lily

Among all the blooming flowers of spring, one flower in particular has earned a place as the symbolic flower of Easter – the lily.

Since lilies grow from a bulb that is buried and then blooms into life, it is a beautiful representation of the death and resurrection of Jesus.

Furthermore, the trumpet shaped blooms of lilies have been likened to the trumpets of angels that herald significant events.

Lilies announce not only the arrival of spring, but the greatest event in Christian history–the resurrection of Christ!

And last, the most important symbol of ALL during Easter!

The Cross

Lastly, and most importantly, is the symbol of the cross.

It seems strange to many people that Christians cherish a symbol of the instrument on which Jesus died.

For believers, however, the cross symbolizes the profound depth of God’s love – that he would send his only Son to die for our sins. Because of the cross, we are forgiven for our sins, we are adopted as sons, and we are promised eternal life with God.

The cross is a reminder, not of defeat, but of victory–victory over death.

We can embrace the cross as an “instrument of death” because death has lost its sting. For “by his power God raised the Lord from the dead, and he will raise us also!” (1 Corinthians 6:14).

So, you are now prepared to tell your children all about the Easter symbols. Make sure to visit this moms website, as she does a phenomenal job keeping Christ the center of all the holidays.

How to teach children not to Fear…

I have been faced with this issue several times as a parent, and  I found this article by to be helpful.

Helping Children Who Fear: 5 Bible-Based Tips -

It’s hard to be little. The world can be a scary place even when all seems well to the adults. And lately even most adults I know do not feel like all is well.

It is so important that we take a Word-based approach when our children fear, because a world-based approach will always disappoint. It would be lying to tell my child that there is nothing to fear. From a purely worldly perspective, my kids’ lives are fraught with dangers, many of which we don’t even contemplate (driven a car lately?)

But I can tell my child not to fear because of who he is in Christ. Because of Who God is. The power of scripture to combat fear is supernatural. God’s Word is the sword of the Spirit!

Here is some scripture that we can teach our kids about fear:

“In God, whose word I praise, in God I trust; I shall not be afraid.” Psalm 56:4

“When anxiety was great within me, your consolation brought me joy. Psalm 94:19 (niv)

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

“…do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7

“…for God gave us a spirit not of fear but of power and love and self-control.” 2 Timothy 1:7

“…casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

Five Word-based ideas for when your child is afraid.

1) Teach children to praise God

Praising God in every circumstance instantly turns our attention off of ourselves and our fears, and onto the only solid and reliable One upon whom we can count. Praise God for Who He is, and for how much He loves us!

“Through (Jesus) then let us continually offer up a sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of lips that acknowledge his name.” Hebrews 13:15

2) Play scripture out loud

When there is a chronic fear hanging heavy in your home, filling the air with scripture can work wonders for restoring peace. Even now I sometimes find myself needing to bathe my mind in scripture as I fall asleep.

Audio bibles are easy to come by thanks to smart phones (both for iPhone and android.) If you don’t have a smart phone, you can buy an audio bible on CD or on mp3.

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.” John 14:27

3) Help children memorize scriptures

The bible directs us to teach our children the scriptures!

“And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” Deuteronomy 6:6-7

You can teach your children some of the specific verses related to fear listed above, but even having basic verses memorized will be a powerful tool in their arsenal against fear! Our summer Hide His Word challenge will be reviewing basic scriptures for believers. If you or your children have never memorized before, why not sign up and start hiding His Word in your heart this summer?

It’s important to understand that the Word of God is the only offensive piece of our spiritual armor, the rest is defensive. The Word is even called the sword of the Spirit. Our children need to know and be ready to wield this holy sword!

“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12

4) Post scriptures around the house

The bathroom mirror and the kitchen windowsill seem to be our two favorite places to post scripture. We spend a lot of time at sinks, apparently! You can put up verses applicable to your child’s current struggle, or a general verse. Try taping printed scripture to the mirror, or for fun, write the verse directly on the mirror with a dry-erase or wet-erase marker!

There are also many beautiful, scripture-based home decorations available.

“You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.” Deuteronomy 6:9

5) Sing scripture songs that deal with fear and courage

Music makes such an impact on kids. On adults too! More than once a scripture has wafted in song out of the car speaker right into this weary mama’s heart and given me strength!

Oh come, let us sing to the Lord; let us make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation! Psalm 95:1

The Seeds Family Worship songs are great. There is lots of other recorded scripture music for kids available. And many old hymns are scripturally based.

If you don’t know a song for the verse you want your children to memorize, use a familiar kids’ tune! Julie explains how in “Truth for Kids to Tunes We Know

However you go about it, helping your kids stay in God’s Word will combat fears of all sizes!

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What are some ways you teach your kids to show love?

This month is the perfect month to share with your children different ways to show love. Focus on the Family posted these great tips, on how to show love.

Love Notes

When my children were little, I’d have them make Valentine’s Day cards out of paper and craft supplies. Then we’d mail them to those who might be overlooked — widows and widowers who were facing their first Valentine’s Day without their spouse, or friends who had recently endured a rough divorce. Then all year, whenever my children complained that they were bored, I’d have them make similar cards that we’d send as encouragement to missionaries.

Cindi Ferrini

Love in Action

During February, my family looks for “love acts.” When I see my 4-year-old do something well, I say, “Wesley, you obeyed the first time I asked. When we obey God the first time, that shows Him we love Him. Way to go!” This helps Wesley hear the connection between loving God and obeying Him.

These love acts can also be done toward each other. For example, I explain to my kids that doing chores demonstrates love for the rest of the family. When we describe love in actions, we help our children begin to understand how real love is shown through more than just our words.

Lauren Osborne

Special Delivery

My husband and I purchased a small mailbox for Valentine’s Day. Each morning in February, we placed a note and a small treat in it for our son. Grammie and Grandpa were even able to get in on it and contributed a note, as well. Our son loved it! He jumped out of bed to see what was in his mailbox each day. Our notes, which often included Bible verses, told him how much we loved him, but also how much God loved him and how special God made him. (You can make your own mailbox and notes for your children in this download.)

Amber Pike

Show Love to Others

To help our children, ages 7 and 4, understand that all people are valuable, especially in God’s eyes, I planned a simple event for our family. We began with “Love Bingo” — using homemade bingo cards with a characteristic of love (as described in 1 Corinthians 13) written into each block. I called out the characteristics and my husband helped the girls mark their cards. I took time to explain how God loves us and expects us to love others and treat them with dignity.

After our game, we prayed that God would make us aware of a need so we could show His love to someone. We noticed a homeless gentleman on our way to buy pizza. After we ordered what we needed, we purchased a pizza and drink for him. My oldest daughter wrote “God loves you” on the box before my husband handed over the food.

Though our gesture didn’t significantly alter this man’s plight, it did help our young daughters understand that God desires for us to share what we have with others.

Print out Love Bingo cards and calling cards to use with your kids.

Cookie Cawthon

A New Focus for Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is all about romantic love and celebrating with your “special someone.” But as our daughter gets older, we want to help her focus less on the boy in the third row at school and more on the long-lasting relationships in her life that show her she is accepted and special.

So we’ve made it a Valentine’s Day tradition to create and deliver gift boxes filled with chocolate-covered strawberries.

As we hand-dip the strawberries, we talk about the important friendships in our lives and the joy we get from giving love to others. Later, we personally deliver the treats to close family friends. This fun tradition gives our daughter a sense of belonging among a community whose love lasts long past the February holiday.

Janna Jones

Creative Valentine Cards for Kids

For Valentine’s Day, I helped my kids use candy hearts to create personalized messages for classmates, friends and loved ones. We cut red and pink paper hearts, glued on candy conversation hearts, then added words to make more meaningful and age-appropriate messages. Here are a few:

I LOVE YOUr heart for God!

I have JUST ONE thing to say: Jesus loves you!

It’s SO COOL that God gave me you as a friend!

I DARE YA to sit by me at lunch! I’ll make a spot for you.

I’M SURE glad you are my little sister!

Shannon Popkin

A Valentine’s Day Tradition

I set up a Valentine’s Day scavenger hunt for my 4- and 2-year-old. Each clue pertained to our home or things that we’d been reading about. The answers were locations. For example: “If what you want the most is to turn bread into toast, you use this.” Or “Mr. Tumnus thought Lucy was from Spare Oom. Where is our Spare Room?”

I directed the girls to the first clue. They joyfully found each clue, asked for it to be read and then went off in search of the next. The end of their adventure revealed a hidden trove of special treats.

The following year, when we changed our calendar to February, the immediate question was, “Will we have a treasure hunt again?”


Courtney Taylor


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You know you need a Parenting class when…

  1. Preschool teacher calls home on several occasions concerned about your child’s behavior
  2. Extended family members tell you that you have a lot of patience with your kids
  3. A new church you visited calls you and tells you that they don’t have any room for your 2 year old
  4. A friend tells you

Well, I wish I could say I got the message above when it happened to me but to be honest, I really didn’t see it.  We were brand new Christians when we moved to Georgia and finally found MHCC (formerly called The Church @ West Cobb) it was definitely a “God directed appointment.”  After another church that we were visiting handed me my two year old and said they didn’t have any room left, (she was quite a handful!) I knew we needed to find a different church.  And this church was offering a parenting class which was suggested that we look into it!  It may have been offered just because of us, I’ll never know, but I’m eternally grateful for it.

A little history before I get started.  When MHCC was launching a bunch of small groups they were encouraging everyone to plug into one of them and get connected.  I really wanted to do a marriage bible study but my husband wanted to do a parenting bible study.  We had a very “child focused” home and I thought our marriage could use some attention.  However, I let my husband decide since I was so grateful we were doing something together!  One of the first lessons we learned in good parenting was…..put your marriage first ☺  Isn’t God good!  If you’re looking for more on marriage, check out the marriage blog!

Our parenting Bible Study was based on the book called, Love Them, Discipline Them by Betty N. Chase and of course, the Bible.  In the very first week my husband and I had learned so much and realized that we had not been doing or known to do any of the suggested parenting tools that were based on biblical principles in the 10 years since we had become parents.  I was devastated and with that, and I started to cry in front of everyone because I thought it was too late.  I was quickly comforted by all the members of the small group and I distinctly remember one Dad telling me it’s never too late with God and that God will meet us where we are and He will help us.  And that, He did indeed!  

Consistent discipline is biblical, necessary and a gift to you and your children!  The form of discipline may vary from child to child and age of the child, however don’t neglect God’s wisdom in the Proverbs.  Proverbs 13:24 he who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is careful to discipline him.  Proverbs 22:6 train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.

Here are some simple guidelines to help you stay in control and have the upper hand.

  1. Daddy & Mommy are always united (at least in front of the children) If one parent says “yes” and the other says “no” then you will have chaos.  Always be united in front of the kids and discuss the differences later in private.
  2. Maintain a schedule/routine and stick with it!  Children thrive with structure and a daily routine i.e. dinner, bath, bed (bedtime is very important, it requires a lot of follow through and hard work on the parents end, but it is necessary for good health and good behavior.  Once a routine is established, it won’t be so difficult to follow and eventually they will automatically comply.
  3. There are 3 basic areas that require discipline –if the child’s behavior falls under this umbrella of behavior it must be addressed every time.
    1. Lying
    2. Disobedience
    3. Disrespect


Don’t let any of these behaviors go undisciplined.  The earlier you start with your children the easier it is for you as they get older.  The more consistent you are with following through, the easier your life will be.  It’s tiring and you will be tested, but persevere and don’t give up, because the prize awaits you and is worth it!

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